I love the blog Tizzie! And the videos! Darragh sounds so cute saying ‘lammies, more’. Reminds me of Isaac!
February 11th, 2010 at
3:58 pm
Tizzie says:
Hi Carrie:
He was very cute and it will be nice to have these videos to look back on when he is older and the lambies and more lambies are a thing in the past.
Le gach dea-ghui, Tizzie
February 15th, 2010 at
1:59 pm
Angelina says:
Hi Tizzie
Great videos!
You mention in the ‘You time’ video about the importance of Darragh being able to see you between sleep cycles – does this apply to babies too?
My 7 month old never has more than 1 sleep cycle in the buggy, but I cover the buggy with a muslin for sleeping… could this be the reason??
Thanks and take care!
February 16th, 2010 at
3:19 pm
Nicole Clark says:
Hi Tizzie,
My 14 month old has never slept more than one sleep cycle unless in his own cot where it is nice and dark! Should I persevere with the buggy? Will he get it eventually? Or have I conditioned him to sleep in the dark?
And how do you like your double Mclaren, we’re about to have number 2 and I’m tossing up between the Mclaren and a tandem
Thanks and keep the videos coming!
Nicole
February 17th, 2010 at
8:37 pm
Tizzie says:
Hi Angelina:
Thank you for your comment and question. Yes I believe while out and about in a environment other then the baby or toddlers normal sleeping cot or mosses basket it is important they can see you when they wake up between sleep cycles. I have never put a blanket or any type of cover over a pram or buggy. This is for two reasons one I believe they need to see you and two it can stop the freedom of air flow which might cause a sleeping accident. So yes I think it could be the reason you have out and about sleep problems.
Yes you might have conditioned him to sleep in the dark but why don’t you make his room a little brighter slowly over a week or two and see how he gets on. He might still work out how to sleep more than one sleep cycle in his buggy. Remember to ignore him if you can between sleep cycles and give him a good 20 minutes to get back to sleep. Let him see you are there but don’t chat or make eye contact with him. Just keep walking or pushing the buggy back and forth for the 20 minutes.
The Mclaren, I have always liked them and if you are in Melbourne thier stand is next to us at the baby show and I can show you some, but having said I like them I have to admit I am a bit disappointed with the new one I have and I prefer my 8 year old one. You see the new one is missing the middle handle which was useful when pushing a toddler and a baby because you would push the side the toddler was on and it didn’t feel like it was pulling to one side and also you can’t hang a nappy bag on the back without the third handle.
Le gach dea-ghui, Tizzie
February 17th, 2010 at
10:07 pm
Jennifer Galton says:
Hi Tizzie,
I have a bit of a dilemma x 2….
my son Felix (25w/old) is following your routine fairly consistently. Some days his sleeps are a bit shorter and some days perfect 2 x 2hrs:) He sleeps from 7pm-7am with one night feed in between and goes straight back to bed. I find with a dream feed he wakes 3 hrs later wanting another feed anyway so i have stopped and now he wakes around 2-4am for a quick feed then sleeps through til 7am.
In your book you mention leaving the house for some of the sleeps so mums can get out and do things and baby can sleep in the pram. My issue is so many organized events (babys reading group at library etc) happen to fall during ‘sleep times’ and I want him to be awake to experience them.
Today we missed out on an 11am event as my son is sleeping right up to 11 which does not give me enough time feed him and drive there(15mins). Is it ok to wake them from a sleep once or twice a week to do things or will that cause confusion and disrupt his sleeping patterns?
Also I have playgroup once a week from 12:30-2:30 and I have turned into the only mum with a grumpy crying baby. I try to settle him in a corner on a foam mattress(b4 everyone arrives) so he can sleep and he sucks his thumb and cuddles his comforter and tries to sleep but talks and looks around for at least 30 minutes before deciding he has had enough and he starts to cry. This ends up escalating to a scream eventually. The location is full of pictures, toys, mobiles, lights etc so it is very visually distracting for him. Also many of the other mums put their babys to sleep near him and when one of them cries or he sees people moving around he cries as well. It is hard for me to let him cry it out as he is SOOO LOUD and eveyone else’s babys seem to have a quick cry then fall asleep or sleep on the play mats or in their mums arms. He is great with self settling at home or on the floor in a spare room at friends houses etc but I think there may be too many distreactions at playgroup. It is affecting me as I spend most of the time holding a crying baby and am unable to bond with the other mums:( I have tried keeping him up and he is happy enough to sit and play until 1 or 1:30 but then he is overtired and screams and I end up leaving early.
When we stay home everything is perfect but I am sick of sprinting out between sleeps to quickly get things done. I want him to be a bit more flexible so we can enjoy more experiences together.
Any suggestions?
March 12th, 2010 at
12:52 pm
Tizzie says:
Hi Jennifer;
Thank you for your post. It sounds like you and Felix are doing very well. I can give a few little tips but if you would like continued support and advice I will need to direct you to the online advice area.
Firstly it is quite normal for babies to sleep different amounts of times each day. 2 hours is the maximum sleep time but anything over around 80-90mins is acceptable. It is also fine to not do the dreamfeed, some babies don’t respond to this well and it is better to let them wake naturally. I assume you have started solids following my advice so you should very soon see the night feed dissappear.
With getting out and about you can vary the routine a little. For example, with your 11am commitment you could get him up at 10.30am and transfer him to the car and arrive at your destination to feed him there and then he can be involved. If you find when you do this he gets tired before the 1pm sleep time you can put him down a little earlier to catch up on lost sleep from the morning, as long as he then sleeps through until his next feed time. Once you have the routines working well at home which is sounds like you have you can make small little changes such as this to allow for going out and about.
In regards to Playgroup, It is really not safe to leave a baby of 25 weeks to sleep on a play mat at playgroup or anywhere unfamilar and not supervised. If could be very easy for him to fall of the mat or another child to go up and try and pick him up etc. A safer option and one that will likely help with the stimulation problems is putting him to sleep in his pram at playgroup and when staying with friends it is much safer for him to be in a portacot or supervised in his pram. I suspect asking him to sleep on a playmat is very different for him and you may not be using bedding so he may not be warm enough to settle. I would try settling him in his pram with it facing you so he can see you and using his safe sleeping bag and appropriate bedding for the room temperature. It is ok to rock the pram a little inbetween sleep cycles to help him back to sleep if he wakes after a catnap as described in my video above. Please note when your baby is asleep in a pram you should always have the pram right with you and be supervising your baby.
Le gach dea-ghui, Tizzie
March 22nd, 2010 at
2:10 pm
stephanie says:
Hi Tizzie,
My baby is 13 weeks old and I have been following your routines on the dot until 2-3 weeks ago, he is trying to move to 5 feeds and then has the last one at night at 4.30 – 5 ish am and will never accept a top-up at 7.00 he is not hungry ! so instead I give him a feed every 4 hours and then a top-up at 6.30pm after his bath and before bed that he seems to accept … thanks to tell me what you think …
Stephanie
I have bought your book and love it. I am currently trying to do a bit of both pram and cot sleeping during the day (and the occaisional car) I find that Stephanie (now 8 weeks corrected age but she was 12 weeks prem) settles and sleeps well during the day in the pram ( I try to leave it uncovered) but wakes after one sleep cycle at home in her cot – she will then cry on and off for 1/2- 45 mins and then fall back to sleep, I dont have to go in there to resettle her, but I have tried 5 straight days now and she still cries inbetween.
She goes down well for now at 7pm so at least that is good, but she will cry for up to 5 mins when I first put her down, but I am worried if I dont deal with the day time sleeps she will eventually not sleep well at night. Has her prematurity got something to do with it – there is not a lot of help out there for us prem mums! WIll she ever learn to resettle between sleep cycles without crying!!??
July 18th, 2010 at
2:07 pm
Simone says:
HI Again
I forgot to mention that she also cries every time I put her down in her cot, usually only 3-5 mins but still its distressing to hear, I would like bed times to be pleasant!
July 18th, 2010 at
5:35 pm
Tizzie says:
Hi Simone:
Thank you for your comment, I am glad you love my book. I had my little boys early as well so yes I know what you mean about prem babies and not so much help. The catnapping in the day could be related to your little one needing to start solids with a baby born 12 weeks early I suggest you start them at 21 weeks.
I too believe if you don’t fix the daytime sleeps the night time will go haywire as well, so if you are able to join my online advice area I can help you more or maybe even book a consultation with me. If not a couple of things I would suggest is checking the bedding because she might be warmer in the pram and that’s why she is sleeping better so try my bedding guide. Also look at hunger and the other thing is a little more awake time if you are not on the ten week to starting solids routine yet please move to this.
Good luck and I will look forward to talking to you in the advice area if you join!
Le gach dea-ghui, Tizzie
July 19th, 2010 at
2:45 pm
Simone says:
Thanks Tizzie, its good to know I am not going mad about prem babies being a little different, my friends dont seem to understand! How prem were yours? Funny you mention the solids as just in the last few days I have noticed her watching me eating which she has not done before. I worry though as she is already on medication for reflux, but I could check with her peaditrician. She also seems capeable of staying up 2 hours after a feed. I keep the nursery around 20 degrees as best I can, but may need to add some more blankets. A consultation sounds great, could be a good idea to set things up right once and for all. I could only see the online advice area though, I will double check for the consultation and then maybe I will see you soon!
Thank you for your post. I have sent you an email with our support options.
Regards,
Kirstie
Product & Sales Manager
July 20th, 2010 at
12:10 pm
Angela Revell says:
Hi Tizzie,
your book is superb, a life saver in fact ! I thought my baby had colic , however after reading Save Our Sleep it occurred to he was over tired , hence the screaming. He now sleep’s like a treat except during the daytime sleeps where he may only have one sleep cycle. I’m unsure whether to leave him to cry it out and resettle or to pick him up,soothe him then put him back down and let him protest? He also has one of your comforters.
I can’t speak about you highly enough and will continue to recommend your book and products to all the parents I meet on my travels.
August 21st, 2010 at
10:34 pm
Tizzie says:
Hi Angela:
Thank you for your lovely post and I am so pleased to hear that by reading my book you worked out your baby was overtired and didn’t have colic – well done!
With the catnapping it is very hard for me to comment without a full background but I would not recommend you leave him to cry without looking at all the reasons for catnapping which can include hunger, not tired enough to sleep well, too cold, negative sleep aids etc. I would recommend you follow my advice on how to resolve catnapping once you have established why is doing so. The best way for you to establish why your little may be catnapping is to read my catnapping article – or it is also printed in the revised edition of my baby book. Here is the link to the article – http://shop.saveoursleep.com.au/product/1803/4127/
If you continue to have problems with catnapping after reading my advice then you may like to consider the online advice area to get extra support in resolving the issue.
Keep up the great parenting.
Le gach dea-ghui, Tizzie
August 23rd, 2010 at
12:05 pm
Ruth Lenz says:
Hi Tizzie
Your book has been brilliant. I have been a follower since my 1st daughter Sophie was 7 months old. She is now 2 and a half. I have a question about the 10 weeks routine for my second daughter, Sara, who is 4 months old. Does the final sleep of the day have to be in the pram or car? Is this because the baby may occasionally not have this sleep? I am finding it very inconvenient to leave the house at this time as this is an ideal time to cook dinner. I can adapt and it is only for another 2.5 months as my baby is now 4 months, but I would prefer to be home at this time every day? Are there any options to this situation?
Regards,
Ruth
August 30th, 2010 at
9:55 pm
Tizzie says:
Hi Ruth:
Thank you for your comment, the nap can be in a bouncer or the pram in the house, the idea is if the baby doesn’t sleep you are not giving her mixed messages by getting her up. But please remember not to leave your little one unattended at this nap time in a pram or bouncer as they are meant for use with adult supervision. Also it is a good idea to have your little one wrapped with the normal bedding and safe sleeping bag for this sleep.
Le gach dea-ghui, Tizzie
August 31st, 2010 at
8:20 pm
Peta says:
Hi Tizzie, I had your SOS book recommended to me while I was 5 months pregnant and have followed your routines to the letter from the day Alexandra was born 15 weeks ago. Everything was going along perfect, she self settled, takes a bottle with no fuss, was sleeping from 7pm-7am with a dream feed from the age of 6 weeks and very very rarely cried…. Until she hit 10 weeks. At that 10 week mark she started to teethe and had a bit of a hard time with it, we managed that and her teeth have gone back down but the crying has persisted. We figured out the next issue was boredom eventually when we introduced a new toy and the problem seemed to resolve. Then for some (still unknown) reason my milk supply dropped and I cant get it back up. I have been expressing (with no success) to try and increase supply, I’ve taken fenugreek, blessed thistle and even tried a beer, but its all over the shop and I have had to comp feed her goats milk formula, During the last 5 weeks that we’ve had these problems she has started catnapping in the day, and waking at anywhere between 5.30 and 6.30am. I’m trying desperately to hang on to breast-feeding even though it doesnt seem to be enough for her but I’m worried it will cause a domino effect of sleep problems. At the moment she is overtired and hits her witching hour at 4.30 every afternoon and demands an extra feed every day between 4.30 and 5.30pm. She was 2 weeks over and is apparently very advanced according to my doctor and chiropractor, and was born 8lb 9oz (3385g) and I am feeling that she is ready to start solids but am not sure about her digestive system being ready. She shows a lot of interest in my anything I eat and has had little “tastes” (only enough for a smidge of flavour) but she is only just gone 15 weeks. Do I introduce solids at 4 months by the calendar? Or 4 months as in 16 weeks?? My mummy’s group and I are all very curious because everything we have been told by other sources says wait until 6 months but that’s a long time for this to continue and its starting to really wear me down. Any help is hugely appreciated. I tell everyone I meet how wonderful your book is and normally Alexandra is fantastic proof, but not so much at the moment I am really looking forward to hearing from you ~ Thank you in anticipation, Peta and Alexandra
October 14th, 2010 at
11:07 pm
Tizzie says:
Hi Peta:
Congratulations on the birth of Alexandra. It sounds like you are doing a great job and well done for trying so hard with the breastfeeding. I have found drinking lots of milk really helps a mum with her supply so I would advise you to try this. You didn’t go on the mini pill at 6 weeks by any chance because this can affect your supply and might be the problem.
With the cat napping and night waking the first thing I would suggest is you look at my safe bedding guide I find most sleep problems are caused by not enough bedding. Secondly I would suggest you start solids at 16 weeks I say 16 weeks not 4 calendar months. I know lots of people are still saying 6 months but I have found this to cause too many problems such as catnapping and allergies so I have gone back to saying 16 weeks, saying four months is as Clare Byam-Cook said in her book setting modern day parents up to fail.
Here is the link to the bedding guide http://shop.saveoursleep.com.au/product/1174/26811/
Le gach dea-ghui, Tizzie
October 15th, 2010 at
2:16 pm
Danielle says:
Hi Tizzie,
I’m sure that I am more then the mllionth person to say this but THANKYOU for writing your book. No one ever explains things the way you do in your book, and its all common sense too. Parenting classes (pre-baby) should be geared towards these “real-life” senarios that you write about in your book not just the “perfect baby” that they tend to get you to strive for. Your boys are amazing at sleeping in their pram! even your youngest with full daylight on his face goes down without a fuss and to sleep. As with some of the other mums I also have the trouble of my 6month old only ever getting 1 sleep cycle in while in the car or in the pram when we are at mothers group or at the shops. We do get out of the house a lot for walks and activities since he was very young so he has had a lot of time and experience in the pram. I have been putting a muslin wrap over the front of the pram while in the shops to take away the stimulation that he gets when he wakes between sleep cycles. Do you think is is causing a problem? Do you recomend I try popping him in the pram for some sleep at home to get him used to this sleeping style (with constant supervision of course!) Do I use the same bedding that I would in his cot and move it to his pram? He is recently given up his double wrap as he started to roll over in his cot even with the correct bedding guide and temperature. So I guess I’m just wondering how I can get Cooper to relax and sleep for more then one sleep cycle while out and about with other mothers and babies or at the shoping centre.
Thanks again for your amaing advice and for creating an environment where mothers and fathers can help and support eachother through this wonderful stage in our lives. You really are an inspiration to us all. It helps us reach out and support others with the knowledge that we have gained. I used to feel helpless when I couldn’t figure out why Cooper wasn’t sleeping or crying or catnapping (and the rest that goes along with a newborn) but you have made me a more confident mum, a better mum for Cooper, a happier wife to my husband and dare I say that when we come to the baby expo next weekend my husband will hug you for all that you have done to make our baby that happiest little Tizzie baby you have ever seen.
October 16th, 2010 at
4:53 am
Tizzie says:
Hi Danielle:
Thank you for taking the time to say thank you, lots of grandparents make the comment you do its just common sense in my book. I think the trick to getting my boys to sleep so well out and about is we did it from day one. From experience t seems to be a hard thing to achieve with older babies.
You could try the pram at home but you would need to do this in your baby’s room and you would need to sit in the room supervising your baby because it is unsafe to leave a baby alone in a pram. Yes you would use the same bedding but be sure he doesn’t get wet with sweat, he might get too hot in his pram you might need to adjust his layers.
Once again thank you for the thank you I am pleased my book helped.
.gach dea-ghui, Tizzie
October 18th, 2010 at
2:42 pm
Cara Morgan says:
Hi Tizzie, It has been awesome to have had a guide with my first child Morgan who was sleeping well from the second week following your guidelines. However since last Wednesday he has been really unsettled on at least one of the day sleeps. Sometimes he cries for the whole sleep session, even with me stroking his head and patting his tummy. Then when I get him up to feed him he is falling asleep because he has not slept during the times you have indicated. He turned one month old today and so I am using the age appropriate routine. I would love to know what to do to have sleep times a pleasant experience. With smiles,
Cara
November 3rd, 2010 at
9:33 pm
Tizzie says:
Hi Cara:
Thank you for your message. Without further information it is very difficult to guide you as there could be many reasons why your baby is not settling during the sleep time. It could be hunger, he could be too cold in bed to settle and sleep well, he could need more awake time or he could be uncomfortable for some reason. The best way to get advice on establishing my routine and solving sleep or settling problems it so choose one of the support options below.
The best way to ask questions about your baby is to please subscribe to Online Advice, FAQ and Book updates 12 month Membership (http://shop.saveoursleep.com.au/product/475/10741/) However before you do this we suggest you read my bedding guide because we have found in this age group addressing a baby’s bedding can solve 70 % of sleep problems (http://shop.saveoursleep.com.au/ecms/product.asp?cid=1174&pid=26811) . The Save Our Sleep® Online Advice service offers a friendly, supportive online community where parents, myself and the Save Our Sleep® team help parents. You can chat to other parents, carers and friends who have similar parenting styles, and ask your questions there. You may find your question is already covered in previous threads.
This community of like-minded people willingly shares their experiences, advice and support with new members. Some of these parents have had previous one-on-one consultations with me and the Save Our Sleep® team, so are very helpful to new parents using the routines to establish them successfully. The Save Our Sleep® moderating team regularly checks the threads and clarifies any questions not fully or correctly answered where necessary. Members can alert the moderators via the ‘Contact an SOS Moderator’ thread if they feel a question has been overlooked or if they have tried following the advice but are still experiencing problems. If this is the case either I or one of my team will step in and direct you further.
We charge a yearly fee to register on our online advice area, to take up this offer please click here. There are two levels of online advice membership available. One is a full membership which allows you to post your questions and seek answers for your own individual situation, the other is a ‘read only’ membership which will provide you will full access to the online advice area but you will only be permitted to read the posts, you are unable to post any questions of your own. If you purchase a ‘read only’ membership you can upgrade this to a full membership at a later date should you wish too. Once we have received your payment we will activate your membership.
We also offer several direct, one-on-one support options with me and if you would like more information about these options please email via the website.
Alternatively my facebook fan page is available where there are many fans who are more than happy to help out other parents with establishing the routines which is of course free. We do try to read all the posts on this page but we cannot guarantee this and of course the advice given is that of the parents and may not necessarily match that of myself and the Save Our Sleep® team. (http://www.facebook.com/pages/Tizzie-Hall-Save-Our-SleepR-The-International-Baby-Whisperer/455972630507?ref=ts)
Le gach dea-ghui, Tizzie
November 8th, 2010 at
1:11 pm
Kellie says:
Hello Tizzie!
First let me tell you that you have been a lifesaver for our family! After the birth of our beautiful son who is 15 weeks old now I had some post natal depression and anxiety and believe me it was horrible. I never thought anything like that would happen. Fortunately I realised I needed help very early on and jumped into action and we are all so much better now. Before starting your routine we actually had started our own bedtime routine which works a charm so I didn’t alter it, however I want to know how I can adapt it so we can eventually take him out at night time. We usually do the following –
Bath & massage at 6.15pm
Feed at 6.35pm – he only takes 20 minutes at most to have his expressed bottle.
Cuddles and wrap him up and put him into bed at 7pm.
The bath and massage are a huge part of his routine and he really loves and enjoys this time and knows then he has his dinner and goes to bed afterwards. We haven’t introduced the dreamfeed and I don’t plan to as he should be starting solids very soon, so what do you suggest??
THANK YOU THANK YOU THANK YOU! I look forward to hearing from you
February 23rd, 2011 at
12:20 am
Tizzie says:
hi Kellie:
Thank you for your lovely message and I am so pleased to hear that after a little rocky start things are going so much better for you now. Congratulations on picking up your PND so quickly and for putting an action plan in place to help you recover – Well Done!
It sounds like you are doing really very well with your little one and your night time routine is basically exactly the same as what I recommend. The only recommendation I would have is to make sure the milk feed is completed by 6.40pm and you have good 20 mins of active play with your little one before bed so he is putting himself to sleep from wide awake and not all dozy. If you put him to bed too close to the completion or milk or after cuddles and he is dozy, when he becomes aware of his night time sleep cycles he may wake and look for either the milk or cuddles to help him settle back to sleep.
In regards to getting out and about you simply need to follow the same bedtime ritual as closely as you can and wrap and pop you little one to bed in either a portable cot or the pram depending on where you are. Please remember if you put him to bed in a pram he must be supervised all the time. It is not safe to put a baby to sleep in a pram and then wheel the pram into a seperate room.
It is perfectly fine that you don’t do a dreamfeed, it does not work for all babies, you may just find you have a night feed for a little longer but this does suit some families better.
Congratulations again on doing so very well and I am sure you will find getting out and about just as easy as your little one knows what is expected of him. Keep up the great parenting
Hi Tizzie,
I have been using your advice since my daughter was 3 months old. She is now 21 weeks and has started to wake at 3-4am. I am doing the dreamfeed at 10.30pm but she is still waking. I have just started solids at before the 6.30pm bottle. Should I be dropping the dreamfeed and if she wakes at 3-4am try feeding her then?
Thanks for your advice, it’s been a real saviour.
Hi Sarah:
Thank you for your email. One of the most common reasons a baby wakes between 3-4am is because the baby is cold. I would suggest you firstly look at your little ones bedding and make sure she is warm enough in bed and not using the feed to warm up. Here is a link to the bedding guide – http://shop.saveoursleep.com.au/ecms/product.asp?cid=1174&pid=26811
Secondly at 21 weeks Tizzie would be recommending that your baby be well established on solids and eating three meals a day of two courses each with you feeding her until she turns away and is full. We would recommend you look at these two things first. We would not recommend dropping the dreamfeed at this stage.
If you are looking for further help and support you may like to consider the online advice area (http://shop.saveoursleep.com.au/product/475/10741/) Alternatively Tizzie’s facebook fan page is available where there are many fans who are more than happy to help out other parents with establishing the routines which is of course free. We do try to read all the posts on this page but we cannot guarantee this and of course the advice given is that of the parents and may not necessarily match that of myself and the Save Our Sleep® team. (http://www.facebook.com/pages/Tizzie-Hall-Save-Our-SleepR-The-International-Baby-Whisperer/455972630507?ref=ts)
Olivia Crowley says:
Love Darragh’s big yawn and head down on the table. What a great actor (even if it wasn’t prompted!!)
Awesome Tizzie!
February 8th, 2010 at 12:06 pm
Tizzie says:
Hi Liv:
Its funny isn’t it, I didn’t see him do it until I saw the video!
Le gach dea-ghui, Tizzie
February 11th, 2010 at 10:41 am
Carrie says:
I love the blog Tizzie! And the videos! Darragh sounds so cute saying ‘lammies, more’. Reminds me of Isaac!
February 11th, 2010 at 3:58 pm
Tizzie says:
Hi Carrie:
He was very cute and it will be nice to have these videos to look back on when he is older and the lambies and more lambies are a thing in the past.
Le gach dea-ghui, Tizzie
February 15th, 2010 at 1:59 pm
Angelina says:
Hi Tizzie
Great videos!
You mention in the ‘You time’ video about the importance of Darragh being able to see you between sleep cycles – does this apply to babies too?
My 7 month old never has more than 1 sleep cycle in the buggy, but I cover the buggy with a muslin for sleeping… could this be the reason??
Thanks and take care!
February 16th, 2010 at 3:19 pm
Nicole Clark says:
Hi Tizzie,
My 14 month old has never slept more than one sleep cycle unless in his own cot where it is nice and dark! Should I persevere with the buggy? Will he get it eventually? Or have I conditioned him to sleep in the dark?
And how do you like your double Mclaren, we’re about to have number 2 and I’m tossing up between the Mclaren and a tandem
Thanks and keep the videos coming!
Nicole
February 17th, 2010 at 8:37 pm
Tizzie says:
Hi Angelina:
Thank you for your comment and question. Yes I believe while out and about in a environment other then the baby or toddlers normal sleeping cot or mosses basket it is important they can see you when they wake up between sleep cycles. I have never put a blanket or any type of cover over a pram or buggy. This is for two reasons one I believe they need to see you and two it can stop the freedom of air flow which might cause a sleeping accident. So yes I think it could be the reason you have out and about sleep problems.
Here is a link to the study that talks about in pram/buggy orientation and it’s effect on babies – http://www.literacytrust.org.uk/talktoyourbaby/Buggy_research.pdf
Le gach dea-ghui, Tizzie
February 17th, 2010 at 9:58 pm
Tizzie says:
Hi Nicole:
Yes you might have conditioned him to sleep in the dark but why don’t you make his room a little brighter slowly over a week or two and see how he gets on. He might still work out how to sleep more than one sleep cycle in his buggy. Remember to ignore him if you can between sleep cycles and give him a good 20 minutes to get back to sleep. Let him see you are there but don’t chat or make eye contact with him. Just keep walking or pushing the buggy back and forth for the 20 minutes.
The Mclaren, I have always liked them and if you are in Melbourne thier stand is next to us at the baby show and I can show you some, but having said I like them I have to admit I am a bit disappointed with the new one I have and I prefer my 8 year old one. You see the new one is missing the middle handle which was useful when pushing a toddler and a baby because you would push the side the toddler was on and it didn’t feel like it was pulling to one side and also you can’t hang a nappy bag on the back without the third handle.
Le gach dea-ghui, Tizzie
February 17th, 2010 at 10:07 pm
Jennifer Galton says:
Hi Tizzie,
I have a bit of a dilemma x 2….
my son Felix (25w/old) is following your routine fairly consistently. Some days his sleeps are a bit shorter and some days perfect 2 x 2hrs:) He sleeps from 7pm-7am with one night feed in between and goes straight back to bed. I find with a dream feed he wakes 3 hrs later wanting another feed anyway so i have stopped and now he wakes around 2-4am for a quick feed then sleeps through til 7am.
In your book you mention leaving the house for some of the sleeps so mums can get out and do things and baby can sleep in the pram. My issue is so many organized events (babys reading group at library etc) happen to fall during ‘sleep times’ and I want him to be awake to experience them.
Today we missed out on an 11am event as my son is sleeping right up to 11 which does not give me enough time feed him and drive there(15mins). Is it ok to wake them from a sleep once or twice a week to do things or will that cause confusion and disrupt his sleeping patterns?
Also I have playgroup once a week from 12:30-2:30 and I have turned into the only mum with a grumpy crying baby. I try to settle him in a corner on a foam mattress(b4 everyone arrives) so he can sleep and he sucks his thumb and cuddles his comforter and tries to sleep but talks and looks around for at least 30 minutes before deciding he has had enough and he starts to cry. This ends up escalating to a scream eventually. The location is full of pictures, toys, mobiles, lights etc so it is very visually distracting for him. Also many of the other mums put their babys to sleep near him and when one of them cries or he sees people moving around he cries as well. It is hard for me to let him cry it out as he is SOOO LOUD and eveyone else’s babys seem to have a quick cry then fall asleep or sleep on the play mats or in their mums arms. He is great with self settling at home or on the floor in a spare room at friends houses etc but I think there may be too many distreactions at playgroup. It is affecting me as I spend most of the time holding a crying baby and am unable to bond with the other mums:( I have tried keeping him up and he is happy enough to sit and play until 1 or 1:30 but then he is overtired and screams and I end up leaving early.
When we stay home everything is perfect but I am sick of sprinting out between sleeps to quickly get things done. I want him to be a bit more flexible so we can enjoy more experiences together.
Any suggestions?
March 12th, 2010 at 12:52 pm
Tizzie says:
Hi Jennifer;
Thank you for your post. It sounds like you and Felix are doing very well. I can give a few little tips but if you would like continued support and advice I will need to direct you to the online advice area.
Firstly it is quite normal for babies to sleep different amounts of times each day. 2 hours is the maximum sleep time but anything over around 80-90mins is acceptable. It is also fine to not do the dreamfeed, some babies don’t respond to this well and it is better to let them wake naturally. I assume you have started solids following my advice so you should very soon see the night feed dissappear.
With getting out and about you can vary the routine a little. For example, with your 11am commitment you could get him up at 10.30am and transfer him to the car and arrive at your destination to feed him there and then he can be involved. If you find when you do this he gets tired before the 1pm sleep time you can put him down a little earlier to catch up on lost sleep from the morning, as long as he then sleeps through until his next feed time. Once you have the routines working well at home which is sounds like you have you can make small little changes such as this to allow for going out and about.
In regards to Playgroup, It is really not safe to leave a baby of 25 weeks to sleep on a play mat at playgroup or anywhere unfamilar and not supervised. If could be very easy for him to fall of the mat or another child to go up and try and pick him up etc. A safer option and one that will likely help with the stimulation problems is putting him to sleep in his pram at playgroup and when staying with friends it is much safer for him to be in a portacot or supervised in his pram. I suspect asking him to sleep on a playmat is very different for him and you may not be using bedding so he may not be warm enough to settle. I would try settling him in his pram with it facing you so he can see you and using his safe sleeping bag and appropriate bedding for the room temperature. It is ok to rock the pram a little inbetween sleep cycles to help him back to sleep if he wakes after a catnap as described in my video above. Please note when your baby is asleep in a pram you should always have the pram right with you and be supervising your baby.
Le gach dea-ghui, Tizzie
March 22nd, 2010 at 2:10 pm
stephanie says:
Hi Tizzie,
My baby is 13 weeks old and I have been following your routines on the dot until 2-3 weeks ago, he is trying to move to 5 feeds and then has the last one at night at 4.30 – 5 ish am and will never accept a top-up at 7.00 he is not hungry ! so instead I give him a feed every 4 hours and then a top-up at 6.30pm after his bath and before bed that he seems to accept … thanks to tell me what you think …
Stephanie
July 3rd, 2010 at 8:21 am
Tizzie says:
Hi Stephanie:
Congratulations on the birth of your little one. A wake at 4.30, 5ish is normally from coldness so I would suggest you look at my safe bedding guide before adjusting the routine. http://shop.saveoursleep.com.au/ecms/product.asp?cid=1174&pid=26811
Le gach dea-ghui, Tizzie
July 5th, 2010 at 5:05 pm
Simone says:
Hi Tizzie
I have bought your book and love it. I am currently trying to do a bit of both pram and cot sleeping during the day (and the occaisional car) I find that Stephanie (now 8 weeks corrected age but she was 12 weeks prem) settles and sleeps well during the day in the pram ( I try to leave it uncovered) but wakes after one sleep cycle at home in her cot – she will then cry on and off for 1/2- 45 mins and then fall back to sleep, I dont have to go in there to resettle her, but I have tried 5 straight days now and she still cries inbetween.
She goes down well for now at 7pm so at least that is good, but she will cry for up to 5 mins when I first put her down, but I am worried if I dont deal with the day time sleeps she will eventually not sleep well at night. Has her prematurity got something to do with it – there is not a lot of help out there for us prem mums! WIll she ever learn to resettle between sleep cycles without crying!!??
July 18th, 2010 at 2:07 pm
Simone says:
HI Again
I forgot to mention that she also cries every time I put her down in her cot, usually only 3-5 mins but still its distressing to hear, I would like bed times to be pleasant!
July 18th, 2010 at 5:35 pm
Tizzie says:
Hi Simone:
Thank you for your comment, I am glad you love my book. I had my little boys early as well so yes I know what you mean about prem babies and not so much help. The catnapping in the day could be related to your little one needing to start solids with a baby born 12 weeks early I suggest you start them at 21 weeks.
I too believe if you don’t fix the daytime sleeps the night time will go haywire as well, so if you are able to join my online advice area I can help you more or maybe even book a consultation with me. If not a couple of things I would suggest is checking the bedding because she might be warmer in the pram and that’s why she is sleeping better so try my bedding guide. Also look at hunger and the other thing is a little more awake time if you are not on the ten week to starting solids routine yet please move to this.
Good luck and I will look forward to talking to you in the advice area if you join!
Le gach dea-ghui, Tizzie
July 19th, 2010 at 2:45 pm
Simone says:
Thanks Tizzie, its good to know I am not going mad about prem babies being a little different, my friends dont seem to understand! How prem were yours? Funny you mention the solids as just in the last few days I have noticed her watching me eating which she has not done before. I worry though as she is already on medication for reflux, but I could check with her peaditrician. She also seems capeable of staying up 2 hours after a feed. I keep the nursery around 20 degrees as best I can, but may need to add some more blankets. A consultation sounds great, could be a good idea to set things up right once and for all. I could only see the online advice area though, I will double check for the consultation and then maybe I will see you soon!
July 20th, 2010 at 8:44 am
Kirstie says:
Hi Simone:
Thank you for your post. I have sent you an email with our support options.
Regards,
Kirstie
Product & Sales Manager
July 20th, 2010 at 12:10 pm
Angela Revell says:
Hi Tizzie,
your book is superb, a life saver in fact ! I thought my baby had colic , however after reading Save Our Sleep it occurred to he was over tired , hence the screaming. He now sleep’s like a treat except during the daytime sleeps where he may only have one sleep cycle. I’m unsure whether to leave him to cry it out and resettle or to pick him up,soothe him then put him back down and let him protest? He also has one of your comforters.
I can’t speak about you highly enough and will continue to recommend your book and products to all the parents I meet on my travels.
August 21st, 2010 at 10:34 pm
Tizzie says:
Hi Angela:
Thank you for your lovely post and I am so pleased to hear that by reading my book you worked out your baby was overtired and didn’t have colic – well done!
With the catnapping it is very hard for me to comment without a full background but I would not recommend you leave him to cry without looking at all the reasons for catnapping which can include hunger, not tired enough to sleep well, too cold, negative sleep aids etc. I would recommend you follow my advice on how to resolve catnapping once you have established why is doing so. The best way for you to establish why your little may be catnapping is to read my catnapping article – or it is also printed in the revised edition of my baby book. Here is the link to the article – http://shop.saveoursleep.com.au/product/1803/4127/
If you continue to have problems with catnapping after reading my advice then you may like to consider the online advice area to get extra support in resolving the issue.
Keep up the great parenting.
Le gach dea-ghui, Tizzie
August 23rd, 2010 at 12:05 pm
Ruth Lenz says:
Hi Tizzie
Your book has been brilliant. I have been a follower since my 1st daughter Sophie was 7 months old. She is now 2 and a half. I have a question about the 10 weeks routine for my second daughter, Sara, who is 4 months old. Does the final sleep of the day have to be in the pram or car? Is this because the baby may occasionally not have this sleep? I am finding it very inconvenient to leave the house at this time as this is an ideal time to cook dinner. I can adapt and it is only for another 2.5 months as my baby is now 4 months, but I would prefer to be home at this time every day? Are there any options to this situation?
Regards,
Ruth
August 30th, 2010 at 9:55 pm
Tizzie says:
Hi Ruth:
Thank you for your comment, the nap can be in a bouncer or the pram in the house, the idea is if the baby doesn’t sleep you are not giving her mixed messages by getting her up. But please remember not to leave your little one unattended at this nap time in a pram or bouncer as they are meant for use with adult supervision. Also it is a good idea to have your little one wrapped with the normal bedding and safe sleeping bag for this sleep.
Le gach dea-ghui, Tizzie
August 31st, 2010 at 8:20 pm
Peta says:
Hi Tizzie, I had your SOS book recommended to me while I was 5 months pregnant and have followed your routines to the letter from the day Alexandra was born 15 weeks ago. Everything was going along perfect, she self settled, takes a bottle with no fuss, was sleeping from 7pm-7am with a dream feed from the age of 6 weeks and very very rarely cried…. Until she hit 10 weeks. At that 10 week mark she started to teethe and had a bit of a hard time with it, we managed that and her teeth have gone back down but the crying has persisted. We figured out the next issue was boredom eventually when we introduced a new toy and the problem seemed to resolve. Then for some (still unknown) reason my milk supply dropped and I cant get it back up. I have been expressing (with no success) to try and increase supply, I’ve taken fenugreek, blessed thistle and even tried a beer, but its all over the shop and I have had to comp feed her goats milk formula, During the last 5 weeks that we’ve had these problems she has started catnapping in the day, and waking at anywhere between 5.30 and 6.30am. I’m trying desperately to hang on to breast-feeding even though it doesnt seem to be enough for her but I’m worried it will cause a domino effect of sleep problems. At the moment she is overtired and hits her witching hour at 4.30 every afternoon and demands an extra feed every day between 4.30 and 5.30pm. She was 2 weeks over and is apparently very advanced according to my doctor and chiropractor, and was born 8lb 9oz (3385g) and I am feeling that she is ready to start solids but am not sure about her digestive system being ready. She shows a lot of interest in my anything I eat and has had little “tastes” (only enough for a smidge of flavour) but she is only just gone 15 weeks. Do I introduce solids at 4 months by the calendar? Or 4 months as in 16 weeks?? My mummy’s group and I are all very curious because everything we have been told by other sources says wait until 6 months but that’s a long time for this to continue and its starting to really wear me down. Any help is hugely appreciated. I tell everyone I meet how wonderful your book is and normally Alexandra is fantastic proof, but not so much at the moment
I am really looking forward to hearing from you ~ Thank you in anticipation, Peta and Alexandra
October 14th, 2010 at 11:07 pm
Tizzie says:
Hi Peta:
Congratulations on the birth of Alexandra. It sounds like you are doing a great job and well done for trying so hard with the breastfeeding. I have found drinking lots of milk really helps a mum with her supply so I would advise you to try this. You didn’t go on the mini pill at 6 weeks by any chance because this can affect your supply and might be the problem.
With the cat napping and night waking the first thing I would suggest is you look at my safe bedding guide I find most sleep problems are caused by not enough bedding. Secondly I would suggest you start solids at 16 weeks I say 16 weeks not 4 calendar months. I know lots of people are still saying 6 months but I have found this to cause too many problems such as catnapping and allergies so I have gone back to saying 16 weeks, saying four months is as Clare Byam-Cook said in her book setting modern day parents up to fail.
Here is the link to the bedding guide http://shop.saveoursleep.com.au/product/1174/26811/
Le gach dea-ghui, Tizzie
October 15th, 2010 at 2:16 pm
Danielle says:
Hi Tizzie,
I’m sure that I am more then the mllionth person to say this but THANKYOU for writing your book. No one ever explains things the way you do in your book, and its all common sense too. Parenting classes (pre-baby) should be geared towards these “real-life” senarios that you write about in your book not just the “perfect baby” that they tend to get you to strive for. Your boys are amazing at sleeping in their pram! even your youngest with full daylight on his face goes down without a fuss and to sleep. As with some of the other mums I also have the trouble of my 6month old only ever getting 1 sleep cycle in while in the car or in the pram when we are at mothers group or at the shops. We do get out of the house a lot for walks and activities since he was very young so he has had a lot of time and experience in the pram. I have been putting a muslin wrap over the front of the pram while in the shops to take away the stimulation that he gets when he wakes between sleep cycles. Do you think is is causing a problem? Do you recomend I try popping him in the pram for some sleep at home to get him used to this sleeping style (with constant supervision of course!) Do I use the same bedding that I would in his cot and move it to his pram? He is recently given up his double wrap as he started to roll over in his cot even with the correct bedding guide and temperature. So I guess I’m just wondering how I can get Cooper to relax and sleep for more then one sleep cycle while out and about with other mothers and babies or at the shoping centre.
Thanks again for your amaing advice and for creating an environment where mothers and fathers can help and support eachother through this wonderful stage in our lives. You really are an inspiration to us all. It helps us reach out and support others with the knowledge that we have gained. I used to feel helpless when I couldn’t figure out why Cooper wasn’t sleeping or crying or catnapping (and the rest that goes along with a newborn) but you have made me a more confident mum, a better mum for Cooper, a happier wife to my husband and dare I say that when we come to the baby expo next weekend my husband will hug you for all that you have done to make our baby that happiest little Tizzie baby you have ever seen.
October 16th, 2010 at 4:53 am
Tizzie says:
Hi Danielle:
Thank you for taking the time to say thank you, lots of grandparents make the comment you do its just common sense in my book. I think the trick to getting my boys to sleep so well out and about is we did it from day one. From experience t seems to be a hard thing to achieve with older babies.
You could try the pram at home but you would need to do this in your baby’s room and you would need to sit in the room supervising your baby because it is unsafe to leave a baby alone in a pram. Yes you would use the same bedding but be sure he doesn’t get wet with sweat, he might get too hot in his pram you might need to adjust his layers.
Once again thank you for the thank you I am pleased my book helped.
.gach dea-ghui, Tizzie
October 18th, 2010 at 2:42 pm
Cara Morgan says:
Hi Tizzie, It has been awesome to have had a guide with my first child Morgan who was sleeping well from the second week following your guidelines. However since last Wednesday he has been really unsettled on at least one of the day sleeps. Sometimes he cries for the whole sleep session, even with me stroking his head and patting his tummy. Then when I get him up to feed him he is falling asleep because he has not slept during the times you have indicated. He turned one month old today and so I am using the age appropriate routine. I would love to know what to do to have sleep times a pleasant experience. With smiles,
Cara
November 3rd, 2010 at 9:33 pm
Tizzie says:
Hi Cara:
Thank you for your message. Without further information it is very difficult to guide you as there could be many reasons why your baby is not settling during the sleep time. It could be hunger, he could be too cold in bed to settle and sleep well, he could need more awake time or he could be uncomfortable for some reason. The best way to get advice on establishing my routine and solving sleep or settling problems it so choose one of the support options below.
The best way to ask questions about your baby is to please subscribe to Online Advice, FAQ and Book updates 12 month Membership (http://shop.saveoursleep.com.au/product/475/10741/) However before you do this we suggest you read my bedding guide because we have found in this age group addressing a baby’s bedding can solve 70 % of sleep problems (http://shop.saveoursleep.com.au/ecms/product.asp?cid=1174&pid=26811) . The Save Our Sleep® Online Advice service offers a friendly, supportive online community where parents, myself and the Save Our Sleep® team help parents. You can chat to other parents, carers and friends who have similar parenting styles, and ask your questions there. You may find your question is already covered in previous threads.
This community of like-minded people willingly shares their experiences, advice and support with new members. Some of these parents have had previous one-on-one consultations with me and the Save Our Sleep® team, so are very helpful to new parents using the routines to establish them successfully. The Save Our Sleep® moderating team regularly checks the threads and clarifies any questions not fully or correctly answered where necessary. Members can alert the moderators via the ‘Contact an SOS Moderator’ thread if they feel a question has been overlooked or if they have tried following the advice but are still experiencing problems. If this is the case either I or one of my team will step in and direct you further.
We charge a yearly fee to register on our online advice area, to take up this offer please click here. There are two levels of online advice membership available. One is a full membership which allows you to post your questions and seek answers for your own individual situation, the other is a ‘read only’ membership which will provide you will full access to the online advice area but you will only be permitted to read the posts, you are unable to post any questions of your own. If you purchase a ‘read only’ membership you can upgrade this to a full membership at a later date should you wish too. Once we have received your payment we will activate your membership.
We also offer several direct, one-on-one support options with me and if you would like more information about these options please email via the website.
Alternatively my facebook fan page is available where there are many fans who are more than happy to help out other parents with establishing the routines which is of course free. We do try to read all the posts on this page but we cannot guarantee this and of course the advice given is that of the parents and may not necessarily match that of myself and the Save Our Sleep® team. (http://www.facebook.com/pages/Tizzie-Hall-Save-Our-SleepR-The-International-Baby-Whisperer/455972630507?ref=ts)
Le gach dea-ghui, Tizzie
November 8th, 2010 at 1:11 pm
Kellie says:
Hello Tizzie!
First let me tell you that you have been a lifesaver for our family! After the birth of our beautiful son who is 15 weeks old now I had some post natal depression and anxiety and believe me it was horrible. I never thought anything like that would happen. Fortunately I realised I needed help very early on and jumped into action and we are all so much better now. Before starting your routine we actually had started our own bedtime routine which works a charm so I didn’t alter it, however I want to know how I can adapt it so we can eventually take him out at night time. We usually do the following –
Bath & massage at 6.15pm
Feed at 6.35pm – he only takes 20 minutes at most to have his expressed bottle.
Cuddles and wrap him up and put him into bed at 7pm.
The bath and massage are a huge part of his routine and he really loves and enjoys this time and knows then he has his dinner and goes to bed afterwards. We haven’t introduced the dreamfeed and I don’t plan to as he should be starting solids very soon, so what do you suggest??
THANK YOU THANK YOU THANK YOU! I look forward to hearing from you
February 23rd, 2011 at 12:20 am
Tizzie says:
hi Kellie:
Thank you for your lovely message and I am so pleased to hear that after a little rocky start things are going so much better for you now. Congratulations on picking up your PND so quickly and for putting an action plan in place to help you recover – Well Done!
It sounds like you are doing really very well with your little one and your night time routine is basically exactly the same as what I recommend. The only recommendation I would have is to make sure the milk feed is completed by 6.40pm and you have good 20 mins of active play with your little one before bed so he is putting himself to sleep from wide awake and not all dozy. If you put him to bed too close to the completion or milk or after cuddles and he is dozy, when he becomes aware of his night time sleep cycles he may wake and look for either the milk or cuddles to help him settle back to sleep.
In regards to getting out and about you simply need to follow the same bedtime ritual as closely as you can and wrap and pop you little one to bed in either a portable cot or the pram depending on where you are. Please remember if you put him to bed in a pram he must be supervised all the time. It is not safe to put a baby to sleep in a pram and then wheel the pram into a seperate room.
It is perfectly fine that you don’t do a dreamfeed, it does not work for all babies, you may just find you have a night feed for a little longer but this does suit some families better.
Congratulations again on doing so very well and I am sure you will find getting out and about just as easy as your little one knows what is expected of him. Keep up the great parenting
If you are looking for further help and support you may like to consider my online advice area (http://shop.saveoursleep.com.au/product/475/10741/) or my facebook fanpage (http://www.facebook.com/pages/Tizzie-Hall-Save-Our-SleepR-The-International-Baby-Whisperer/455972630507?ref=ts).
Le gach dea-ghui, Tizzie
February 23rd, 2011 at 1:41 am
Sarah Somerville says:
Hi Tizzie,
I have been using your advice since my daughter was 3 months old. She is now 21 weeks and has started to wake at 3-4am. I am doing the dreamfeed at 10.30pm but she is still waking. I have just started solids at before the 6.30pm bottle. Should I be dropping the dreamfeed and if she wakes at 3-4am try feeding her then?
Thanks for your advice, it’s been a real saviour.
March 7th, 2011 at 4:10 am
Kirstie says:
Hi Sarah:
Thank you for your email. One of the most common reasons a baby wakes between 3-4am is because the baby is cold. I would suggest you firstly look at your little ones bedding and make sure she is warm enough in bed and not using the feed to warm up. Here is a link to the bedding guide – http://shop.saveoursleep.com.au/ecms/product.asp?cid=1174&pid=26811
Secondly at 21 weeks Tizzie would be recommending that your baby be well established on solids and eating three meals a day of two courses each with you feeding her until she turns away and is full. We would recommend you look at these two things first. We would not recommend dropping the dreamfeed at this stage.
If you are looking for further help and support you may like to consider the online advice area (http://shop.saveoursleep.com.au/product/475/10741/) Alternatively Tizzie’s facebook fan page is available where there are many fans who are more than happy to help out other parents with establishing the routines which is of course free. We do try to read all the posts on this page but we cannot guarantee this and of course the advice given is that of the parents and may not necessarily match that of myself and the Save Our Sleep® team. (http://www.facebook.com/pages/Tizzie-Hall-Save-Our-SleepR-The-International-Baby-Whisperer/455972630507?ref=ts)
Kind Regards
Kirstie
Save Our Sleep
March 8th, 2011 at 12:52 am